untamed // glennon doyle

published: 2020

pages: 328
heard: 3/30 to 4/1/2020
book: 27 in 2020

I can feel everything and survive.

SYNOPSIS
its hella long. read here.

THOUGHTS

tbh, i'd never heard of Glennon Doyle or what she does or what she's about. but then Elise posted about her book and i kept seeing it everywhere and that cover kept calling to me that i finally got it at Costco while the world was hoarding everything and i was hoping to score toilet paper. (future les: remember that time!?)

while there is so much that i can say about this book the two things that i will say about it are that:
1) this is a B E A U T I F U L book that i am so grateful to have read BUT i completely understand that while i read it, i probably didn't embrace it fully. there are lessons that i learned but there are other lessons that will hit me later on as well and hopefully even better.

2) this is the kind of book that will forever teach me something new ever time i re-read it. i hope to pick this up in the future and remember how i felt as i read it and embrace whatever lesson is teaching me in that moment.

i have not read her first book so i cant speak on that but in this one, she talks about the end of her marriage and how in the instant that she saw her now wife she knew. THERE SHE IS.

this book is about love and acceptance and lessons and learning and more than all of that.

while there are a lot of faves, i have to say that one that stuck with me is the one where someone asks her about how to deal with her daughters coming out.

she talks about how when she found her one, she told her family but they were hesitant because, well, life! in the end she learned that her and her wife and their kids were an island and they were happy and that they couldnt allow others to penetrate that. because you can never make everyone happy. if they want to be on the island, they need to abide.

they're at a soccer game or something like that when her mother calls her and tells her that she misses her grandkids and wants to see them but she tells her that until she gets on board with her life, she cannot see her grandkids. she cannot allow the boat to sink to save someone who isnt willing to put in the work to help keep it afloat.

in the end she told the mother something along the lines of "if you have to choose between being a mother or a daugther, choose mother. every damn time. your parents had their turn to build their island. your turn."
UGH!
the feels.

(chapter: Islands page 189-194)

tbh, at this moment in my life, i do not know if being a mother is something i want to do or even have the heart to do but this one got to me because its true. if i do ever become a mother, i like to think that i will be the type of mother that will be there for her children and that i'll build an island that others have to earn a place on. its about moving forward.

i can go on forever about why this is good and what it taught me and opened me up to.

but ill leave it here.

All of our suffering comes when we try to get our resurrection without allowing ourselves to be crucified first. Pain is not tragic. Pain is magic. Suffering is tragic. Suffering is what happens when we avoid pain and consequently miss our becoming....

at the time i read this book, i was idle.
at the time of this post, i am living magic. i am becoming.
already learning lessons about how to bloom and how to grow.
beautiful.

if you can get a copy, do so.

(dont take that lightly, that's not something i ever say! and if youve been following me a while, you know that's true)

thanks for reading!